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Plastic Surgery too much?

Okay in 2004 my Mum had a face lift, which we all tried to talk her out of, she looked very strange and still does a lilttle bit, but we all said it will be fine when it settles down. She was looking fine and has no double chin at all and plenty of cheek bone, no wrinkles etc. Definately didn't need more work done. On the 15th January she went and had more work done. Now she is on the phone saying she is not happy, her eyes are slanty and she has a slight cat in wind tunnel look about her. I told her look you only had a face lift 4 and a bit years ago, I told her over and over, don't do any more work. You look fine, wait another 10 to 15 years then do a little more, not like only 4 years later. My problem is that I feel like she is just turning herself into a freak and that she is not the Mum I once knew, I can't reason with her anymore, not just on plastic surgery on anything, it is like she has had a mental change not just a cosmetic change...it's really strange but I feel like I have mentally lost Mum that was. I have made excuse after excuse about not being able to go and see her (she lives quite far away) - because honestly, I know that she will be showing me the cuts and stitch marks and going on about how brave all her friends say she is and what do I think, and I don't want to have to say - it looks awful, but I feel I might have to do stop her doing something else in 4 or 5 years when she clearly will not need it. She went to a very reputable surgeon, she used to go like every 4 months, is there anything else you can do, he used to tell her, no you are fine you don't need anything doing, then all of a sudden last Autumn he recomended "endotine" etc....(plenty of info on internet)..and then in January bam it was done. I get the feeling she was bothering him so much that he has done quite a tight job to stop her coming back and back and back. She has seen him 4 times since 15 January for checking and follow up, Mum has complained to him it is too tight, he says it will settle down. I said to Mum it will look tight because honestly you didn't need anything doing..she just dismisses me and says I am not qualified to say. I just don't really want to go and visit, we speak every night on the phone, and I say "how is your face today" and then she moans, but then defends having it done. Now I am blabbing on and on. Basically I feel quilty because I don't want to visit her, what should I do? Visit when I want or just go up and see and get it over with ? PS I am 44 she is 67. Apparently one of her friends exclaimed when they saw her, oh my god you look like you are 8 years old !

Public Comments

1. Poor you and poor Mum, as the surgery was so recently done her appearance will probably change. You can't hurt her feelings, she can probably see for herself, daren't admit it and her friends are being supportive. Just resolve you won't go down that road and try to visit her, you will get used to her appearance and there are more important things than looks. Below is an extract from an article in the London Times, so you can see your mother is not alone. I had heard of this addiction to plastic surgery before, have read that you can't see where the surgery ends and Cher (Google her)begins! Even surgeons who profit from the boom are now admitting some of this treatment may be unnecessary. Searle is drawing up a checklist for fellow surgeons to help them avoid treating patients who return for repeat procedures simply because they get a “buzz” from their new looks or because they are fixated with perfecting the appearance of a particular part of their body. “There are people who develop a dependency on the support they appear to get from cosmetic surgery. Cosmetic surgery is potentially habit-forming,” said Searle.