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Worst wedding mishaps ever. Was yours as bad as mine?

I got married on August 31st this year. Imagine the morning of your wedding wondering what your vows would be. My officiant said she would write our vows and refused to tell us what they said before performing them. Clearly i freaked out. Any bride is in the right mind to want to know what they say before they say it. She proceeded to tell me if I didn't like the way she worked to find someone else. I tell my wedding planner and she immediately finds us someone whose willing to perform the ceremony hours later. We call my officiant who offered to return my money earlier. She hears the news and hangs up on me. I call her back and she yells at me saying I am a brat with no respect for her. During my rehearsal she was mad because I forgot to say Hi to her. During the rehearsal she claimed she never got an invitation to dinner which she did months ago. A week before the wedding I called her to tell her to incorporate my grandfather who passed the month prior into our ceremony. She yells at me saying I just had plastic surgery I don't need to be bothered with this. Call me a few days before the wedding and we'll incorporate your grandma. Yeah! Day of the wedding I had to finally plead her to show up b/c she would no longer return my money. I guess I called her bluff. I sat on the phone saying "youre right" "i'm wrong, im sorry" She finally showed up performed the ceremony. I hated the vows. She signed the license and handed it back to me. I said thank you bye. She ignored me and walked away. I will never forget how rude and awful she was. But i moved on. In response to everyone who thinks i shouldve just brushed it off and found a new officiant, when you pay x amount for certain services they should give you a certain level of respect. When she offered to return the money she took her word back got some phoney lawyer involved at that point I didn't have an extra amount of money to just hire someone else. Yes I was aware of her writing our vows but it was an ongoing issue with her that she refused to let us here them. My husband and I both clearly remember our vows and they were embarressing and terrible. I would never recommend this officiant to anyone. I didn't provide this story to get negative feedback it was simply to hear other peoples ordeals and cope. The officiant's website is www.romanticvows.com. Don't use her EVER! Thank you.

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holly cow! what a awful wench. im getting married next august ... so you sent a shudder up my spine!
The only fiasco we had was that we had ordered a beautiful cake from one of my mother's friends who did wedding cakes professionally. At 8:30pm the night before the 11:00am wedding, she called my mom to tell her she wasn't going to be able to make the cake! Seems to me the cake should have already been made by that time! We ended up having to go to a grocery store bakery and get a pre-made cake the morning of the wedding - of course it wasn't anything like I wanted, but since that's the only thing that went wrong it wasn't all that bad.
Hi Erika, Goodness, Im sorry you had to deal with such a MONSTER. Some people cant handle their own lives for some reason, it really sounds like she couldnt handle her own stress - and that spilled over into how she was treating you, and probably everyone else around her. I can't imagine what her poor husband (if she has one) was dealing with at the time! You shouldnt have had to apologize to this horrible unhappy woman, but you know what, it will all come back to her somehow!
That is horrible! What a mean person! But, many other things could have gone even worse. If you think about it, none of your guests probably even knew what was going on. At our wedding, my Sister in law decided to take her family photos with OUR photographer during our first dance and the father/daughter dance!!! We had a HUGE, expensive wedding, and something like that was not supposed to happen. But Oh, it did. Now I have no pics of the first dance or the dance with my dad!!!!
Not to interrupt your venting session, but I assume you were well aware of her policy on surprise vows long before the morning of your wedding. If you didn't like the idea of not knowing what you were going to say until you said it, you should never have gone with that officiant in the first place. From your story it seemed like your two personalities clashed from the onset, so as the bride it was your responsibility to sense that and pick another officiant months before the wedding. Also, I just want to reassure you that nobody really pays attention to or cares about the vows you say at your ceremony. Mere moments after the bride has been kissed and the guests move to the reception, the exact wording of the vows are all but forgotten by everyone, including the groom himself. I know that in all the weddings I've ever attended, I couldn't remember a thing either of them said by the time thecake was cut. So basically, here we are, nearly two months later, and you are assuredly the only one still obsessing over some vows you said that you didn't like. You should let that anger go and enjoy your marriage now that the wedding's over. Have a good weekend!
You should be grateful that at least she showed up. Count your blessings. I've heard from my wedding coordinator of couples that ended up NOT getting married because the officiant canceled on a short notice and there was no one else available to perform the ceremony. You got married. I'm sure grandpa will be fine. As the other posted said, no one ever remembers/cares about your wedding vows. I've been to dozens of wedding and I cannot remember anything. No mishaps on my wedding. Everthing went without a hitch. My officiant call me my husband name, we all laughed, it was all in good fun. I also got married on 8/31/08 Good luck
Wow! I can't believe you still used her as your officiant after all that! If I were you, I would have went with the other officiant that your wedding planner found. You could have dealt with the refund after the wedding. You shouldn't have let this crazy woman marry the two of you. No major mishaps at my wedding.
I'm shocked that I keep reading answers that are telling you to get over it.. I mean you paid for a service, and because you are paying for that service, it should be done the way that you, the customer, requests. It's a big deal when the key person who you need to get married is as unprofessional as she was, especially on a day that is so important to you. I would have been upset as well, and I think your frustration is completely valid. And as far as people saying that the vows aren't important, as guests don't remember them, I don't think that's true at all. The vows are one of the points during the ceremony and reception that are for you and your future husband. If the guests don't remember, that's fine, but this is a moment where you declare your love and life long promises to each other. And personally I don't think it's a service that you should have to settle for.
Not my wedding but when my cousin got married, his wife's 87 year old grandmother was suffering from a scorpion sting ( a common but not deadly occurrence down there) she had received on her ankle a few days before she left FL to come to the wedding. During the wedding, the photographer rushed through all the photos, and when her grandmother wasn't moving fast enough, he pulled her arm very roughly to move her and told her to "get the f*ck out of the way". Well, needless to say, my cousin and his best man took the photographer "out back" roughed him up a bit, took the film, and broke his camera. Cops came, one happening to be a patron my cousin and his wife's catering business, she talked to them. When they saw the bruises on the grandmother's arm, and saw the photographer roughed up, and the cops decided that the story that he "fell down the stairs and broke him camera" was *wink wink* believable. The photographer flipped his sh*t! Started ranting and raving saying how cowardly we and the cops were allowing him to be brutalized and blah, blah, blah, the film was stolen, blah, blah, blah, his camera was broken, and then the cops decided just to escort him off the property.
As soon as she refused to tell me what the vows were I would have kissed her off, gotten another officiate, and made a demand of a refund in lieu of a date in Small Claims Court.....good luck.
If I were you, I would have cut my losses with the money and found another officiant on my own. I would not want that person to be a part of my wedding day. I wouldn't beg anyone to do anything. Sorry for your troubles. My wedding was perfect, and I attribute that to not over-planning. We made arrangements, but didn't really pick anything down to the very specifics, so whatever music they played, whatever flowers came, etc were just fine for us. And because we didn't plan anything too much, we weren't disappointed if it didn't happen.
I so understand and fell the need to vent. Worst thing at my wedding: My mother-in -law showed up in white. She then proceed to leave immediately after the ceremony when we where to do the family photos (my uncle a professional photographer was doing them for free) and take her and her two daughters to Sears to have photos taken since they looked so nice. Hang on it gets worse. We get to the reception site and she is no where to be found. Her photos at Sears took awhile. She shows up 20 minutes after dinner has been served and yells at us for having the nerve to not wait. She is offended that we don't have liquor at the reception and send her son to the market to buy some, which of course was in my contract that we would not have any so I ended up paying extra and apologizing to the whole community. This was the start of a very unhappy marriage. I can say - at least yours was not family. I a grateful though that you are married and hopefully you and your new husband will be able to look back on this and laugh twenty years from now.
You should let us know who she is so we all know not to hire her.
Alright you asked...so i'll tell-lol The limo was 1 hour late and it was the wrong limo so the best man had to sit on the floor... one of the bridesmaids kept hitting on my husband during our reception and even tried to open our present the next day at gift opening-lol one of the other bridesmaids didn't get her dress until the day before my wedding. this is from my sisters wedding: 1.We would like to thank you for the use of your facility for our wedding reception. The hall was large which supported our 250 guests and we enjoyed the extra room to mingle with friends as well as a dance floor. 2.On May 8, 2007, we entered into an agreement with the Beddington Heights Community Association for the rental of your main hall, fully functioning kitchen, parking lot and bathrooms. This facility was chosen because of its apparent capacity to hold guests in excess of 200 individuals, had a fully functioning kitchen with two stoves, an accessory oven, one fridge and one deep freeze in the main floor kitchen. Based on a walk through of the hall, parking lot and surrounding area, it was determined this facility was acceptable and suitable to handle a wedding reception. In the agreement it was decided, based on a decision to have a bar at the wedding, for the pop and ice to be included into the rental price. An agreement was signed in the amount of $2,356.20 on the understanding that we would have access to the facility on Friday June 13, 2008 to prepare for the reception. 3.In order to prepare for the 240 guests and prepare the hall we arrived at the hall on Friday June 13, 2008. The hall, the stairways, the main floor kitchen and upstairs kitchen all required sanitation so that it could be used. The entire kitchen area and counter tops had to be disinfected. 4.The following is what we noted: a)When entering the kitchen, we were greeted by the security staff, who calmly explained to us that the large fridge in the main kitchen had not been working for at least a week. Since our agreement had states that we were able to use the fridge Friday night, we had to make use of the small and slightly broken fridges on the second level of the community centre. Again, we chose the Beddington Community Centre because we could bring our own food. Our parents had spent countless hours preparing and cooking our homemade wedding buffet for 250 people. The non-functioning refrigeration units made for an extremely frustrating time trying to move all the food into the upstairs fridge on Friday night and then back down again on Saturday morning with left-overs back to the second floor again Saturday evening to keep it cool for the following day. b)We were not told in advance that the community centre parking lot would house a recycling drop-off location on the day of our wedding. This was quite the shock as the wedding party drove up in the vehicle, only to see numerous 60 x 40 foot of garbage piles that consumed the majority of the parking lot. As well, we chose your facility for our event because we were having a large reception, 250 people. Many of these guests were from out of town and actually second guessed the location of our reception, thinking they were at the wrong building. This initial view of the building we had personally chosen for our wedding reception, over a year and a half ago, was clearly not the same image we received on our wedding day. By late that evening the main parking lot finally cleared of recyclable goods, however, much debris remained on the side of the parking lot. Can you imagine, what was going through the minds of the guests? c)Two ovens, which were both working at the time the contract was signed, would not heat up to proper temperatures. This was an extreme inconvenience and resulted in a main dish of ham being served cold. d)When we entered the kitchen on Friday night, the floor and countertops were not satisfactory. There was dirt on the floor and the counters were dirty. We had to disinfect the entire kitchen prior to preparing any food. This establishment was supposed to be ‘ready to use’ in order to prepare for the wedding. Instead we had to clean up the hall just to make it sanitary to prepare and serve food. This was not part of the contract. e)One of the toilets, in the ladies bathroom did not flush properly, and leaked all over the floor. After informing the security staff on duty, he preceded to clean it up with a mop, once. The bride’s mother had to repeatedly mop up the mess throughout the remainder of the evening, so the water would not be an embarrassment to our wedding guests. f)At one point during the evening, the gentlemen on security was sawing away the drywall beside the office door doing some sort of general maintenance. This task was underway during our reception with all guests present. g)We were not provided with coffee urns for the reception. On the Friday before the wedding at 3:00pm we received a phone call telling us that all of the coffee urns were broken. Among the hectic day that it was, we now had to run around Calgary trying to find large coffee urns for our 250 guests. h)The bartenders were not aware that they had to provide ice. The bartenders told us that if we used the ice in the freezer the community association would charge us $20/bag. The groom’s father had to leave the reception to buy ice and cold beverages, at premium price due to the fact that there was non-functioning refrigeration. ...
I'm sorry for your bad experience. Our wedding went off without a hitch. One tiny hiccup though. I dressed at my parents' place and then I drove them to the church. My Mom was my bridesmaid so that wasn't a problem. Plus, I knew where the church was so it was just easier that way. I know this sounds a bit odd but, oh well. After the wedding, we had pictures in the church yard. A lovely outdoor garden. Then we all headed to the hotel where we had the reception. Great evening, great food, lots of fun. That same hotel is where my hubby and I stayed the night. Lovely room. All was well. In the morning we got up and realized that neither of us had planned a change of clothes! We had to dress in our wedding attire to leave the hotel. Like I said, minor hiccup and pretty goofy. A bit of levity to balance all the awful experiences some of the others have had.