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What should I do?

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. I love him like crazy and we recently had a beautiful baby girl. The problem is I feel unworthy of him. I have always felt like this but I never knew it would get this bad. He's the most incredible guy and soo handsome. Everyone admires him and comments on how great he is. In comparison I look ugly and tired, especially after having the baby. I have spoke to him about this and he tells me not to be silly and how much he needs me and loves me. I actually now hate waking up in the morning with him as i look awful without make up. I have considered plastic surgery but don't feel that it would really help. If i stay with him, I feel that I will always feel this way about myself and will get worse in the coming years. I will also make him miserable too. If i leave him, I will be breaking up our family and still feel miserable because I love him. I'm now ashamed to be seen out with him and it's really making life difficult for us both.

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You definitely need to go to speak with a counsellor. You definitely have self-confidence issues and maybe a bit of post-partum depression. Go talk to someone and maybe they'll be able to help you get the root of the issues that you're having so that you can truly be there for your boyfriend and your daughter. But get help because you can't be there for them unless you're first there for yourself. Good luck.
don't be so hard on your self! he loves you and thats all that matters! what ever you do... do NOT get your family seperated. My parents divorced when I was around 4 years old, and i promise you... it was NOT fun at all.
Wow, Sophie m , a lot of issues here. The main one being a total lack of self-esteem. What you need is some serious counselling to boost your ego, you should listen to your boyfriend. He seems to be able to see what you can,t. Sounds like a bad case of post-partum depression, get some help.
you are craaaaazy!!!!! you love him to death and he loves you the same!!! the stupidest thing you could do is break up your family because you think the man you share mutual love with is too good looking for you! you should be happy that you have a man who can see past the aging that everyone goes through. he obviously loves you for who you are and that makes you one of the luckiest people in the world. some people never get that, and you are thinking of throwing it away... you're right though, it's hard to love someone that doesn't love themselves. take a long hard look at yourself and figure out if plastic surgery is really going to make you happy. i think you should just start thinking positive, accept what has come to you in life (the good and the bad) and thank your lucky stars you and your man have something so special! best of luck
Stop thinking like that. How about think about your lucky life, you got a boyfriend that loves you so much no matter what happened, you also have a healthy baby, so be grateful. I f you feel physical appearance is the most important, then change your mind set. The most important thing is you in the inside. The wrap can be broken but the inside one can't be broken. That makes your boyfriend loves you. Before you love someone else try to love yourself first.
wow hun, I mean how can you feel so bad about yourself. You have a guy who loves you and has no problem with how you look. Live life and love your man and new baby!
Oh dear what actually you really worry about? Worry your boy will dump you because of your look? Give yourself some confidence. You have been with your b/f for 4 years not 4 months. And now you even have a baby girl and everything has worked out so well. My dear, the look is not everything, don't be silly to consider plastic surgery just to keep your man beside you. If a man would have to leave you, nothing would ever stopped him to go, even you are a gorgeous sexy mama. He loves the real you, he loves who you are now. You should be proud to have someone like that in your life. You should admire of yourself being able to have a beautiful baby girl with the one that you loved. Come on, just take it easy...and enjoy your life with your man and your baby.
Sounds like you need to see a therapist. Your problem has nothing to do with your boyfriend and what he thinks of you. You would feel the same what with any guy. You need to get to the root of your self-esteem problem. What started making you feel so bad about yourself?